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Femme Fatale Guide: Habits To Become Your Best Self In 2023

Some habits, routine ideas, and mindset shifts to help make 2023 your best year yet. Hope this helps and inspires you to reach your goals for the next 12 months. Remember to work hard and take care of yourself. Once you put your mind to it, the sky is the limit! xx

Make Your Meals Plant-Based & Produce-Focused: Center your meals around a variety of vegetables, fruits, plant proteins, potatoes, and unprocessed plant-based fats (avocado, nuts, seeds) and minimal whole grains.

Get Creative With Stress Eating Substitutions: Discover healthy swaps for your meals and snacks to ensure what you're eating without sacrificing your goals. Some simple substitutes include mixing in cauliflower rice into your whole grain rice to add nutrients/volume while slashing the calories, using half an avocado with lemon as a salad dressing over spoonfuls of olive oil, swapping meat for lentils in a chill, soups, or stir fry, choosing frozen grapes or whipped bananas with berries over candy or ice cream for a sweet treat, etc. Remember: Spices and seasoning are your best friends.

Be Mindful of Your Beverage Consumption: Consuming enough water is essential. However, if you get bored with water, add some herbal and black tea, black coffee, or fruit-filled water into the mix. Cinnamon, vanilla, and apple or peach teas are great options to satisfy cravings and prevent mindless snacking (not a substitute for food – eat if you're genuinely hungry). For the winter season, try using some pure cocoa powder with hot water, vanilla extract, and a tablespoon or two of plant-based milk for a healthy hot cocoa drink.

Prioritize Long Walks: Carve out 1-2 hours of your day to get 10-12K steps in at least 5 days a week. Go outside if possible or jump on a treadmill/walking pad to get in some movement while watching TV, talking on the phone, or catching up on some emails.

Find A Simple Resistance Workout You Love: Yoga, pilates, or an at-home weight-training or body-weight exercise you can do at home. Browse different YouTube videos for 10-30 minute workouts to try or sign up for a class in your local area to make it a more social experience (and force yourself to take accountability to show up in the first place).

Create Short & Long "Bookend" Routines: Create a simple routine for the beginning and end of the task-filled portion of your day. For most of us, these routines would be done in the morning and evening/at night before and after work, school, or doing chores/errands. Let go of the rigid idea that these routines need to be done at certain times of the day. Set yourself up to win and tailor them to your schedule. Consider these short routines (like drinking a cup of coffee/tea, reading, meditation, journaling, a walk, or a short dancing session) your warm-up and cool-down sessions of the day. Having these rituals to look forward to will give you the energy and motivation to do what you need to get done each day.

Practice This 10-10-10 Mindfulness Practice: Make time for at least 10 pages of reading, 10 minutes of meditation, and 10 minutes of journaling daily (This can include shadow work) either in the morning or nighttime to clear and reset your mindset for the day.

Take An Hour To Plan Out Your Week: It's most convenient to do this power hour on a weekend (I typically reserve an hour before dinner on Sunday for weekly planning). Write out all of your main work tasks, schedule any due date reminders (for work, bills, chores, and other life necessities), must-do errands, emails and calls or appointments to make, etc.). I like using the Productivity Planner from Intelligent Change and my Reminders app/Google calendar via iCloud to sync deadlines and times to schedule messages/tasks/bills, so everything will be in front of me at the correct time throughout the week.

Prioritize 1-3 Tasks Daily: You might need to choose one large project to work on in small chunks or select a "Big 3" for the day, depending on how complex, lengthy, and time-consuming your projects/errands or appointments are for the day. Using this method allows you to be efficient, streamline your life, and feel productive without overwhelming yourself on the regular (the fastest route to burnout).

Make A Life Admin Schedule (and Stick To It): Choose days (and times if possible) of the week to update certain spreadsheets, batch reply to less urgent messages, clean your house, do laundry, grocery shop, etc. Scheduling these tasks ahead of time eliminates half of the battle for following through on what you need to do. Eventually, you will make these tasks into habitual routines that your brain will allow you to execute effortlessly as though you're in autopilot mode.

Mind Your "Circle of Influence": Do an intake on the 5-10 people you speak to the most or value in your life. If you're an employee, it is probably best to not include your boss or coworkers in this consideration list, as you need to work amicably with them regardless of your personal feelings. Look how you feel during your interactions with your friends, family, intimate partner, or an adjacent love interest. Consider how they speak to you, about themselves, and the topics your conversations are focused around. See if they align with the person you want to be and your goals. Evaluate how close you want to be and what parts of your life you think would be the most beneficial for you and the relationship going into 2023.

Set Boundaries: Understand your expectations, non-negotiables, and limits in every area of your life. Communicate these principles to others clearly, so they know when they are overstepping. Don't tolerate disrespect, but also don't expect others to be mind-readers. If someone knows that they're crossing your boundaries, it is easy to draw the line in the sand and walk away without the guilt or shame that can arise when conflicts originate from a lack of healthy communication.

Incorporate One Creative Practice Into Your Week: Reinvigorate your mind by engaging in at least one hour of creative activity per week. Try drawing, creative writing, poetry, singing, dancing, painting, pottery, jewelry making, graphic design, photography, etc. Even taking a foreign language course or creating a Pinterest inspiration/mood board or organizing your home/closets in an aesthetically-pleasing way counts. Figure out what creative outlet(s) you find satisfying. Prioritize scheduling this practice into your schedule weekly.

Refine Your Signature Look: Edit your wardrobe, try out a new haircut, or change up your makeup routine, nail color, or signature scent. Consider how you can close any gaps between your authentic personal style and how you present yourself on a day-to-day basis. Create an inspiration board if needed to help yourself define your unique aesthetic and gradually work towards embodying your ideal look.

Keep A "Praise" Archive: Create a record of all of the messages you receive highlighting your achievements, milestones, recognitions, or compliments. Compile a folder that acts as your "praise" archive for every area of your life. Create a folder in your work email inbox to save all of your professional achievements, praise, and positive contributions. Do the same for your personal email. Create a folder in your photo album of screenshotted texts. Keep a running list on your "Notes" app of any compliments you receive on your conversational contributions, actions, attire, personality, smile, etc. Hyping yourself up to connect to your highest self.

Create A "Siren" Kit: Take note of all of the clothing, scents, songs, cosmetics, phrases, people, and other aspects of your environment that empower you to feel your sexiest. Keep all of these items/songs/texts together to make it simple to set the mood before engaging in some indulgent action or revisit when you need a boost of confidence throughout your week.

Do A Financial Audit: Create an income/expenses spreadsheet to understand your current spending behavior and budgeting plan going forward. Set up your 2023 financial goals and projections, including target amounts for income, savings, and investments.

Give Yourself A Weekly "Treat": Find a healthy indulgence that you can strategically incorporate into your week. This "treat" can be a massage or nail appointment, permission to watch a movie or a couple episodes of a TV show, a serving of your favorite dessert or a glass of wine, etc. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Consider regular indulgence as an act of self-care not as a sign of weakness or self-destruction. Embracing pleasure does not require guilt or external permission.

Happy New Year, loves! Cheers to an abundant 2023 xx

[tahyal]

Hello tahyal! How can I rewire my subconcious mind? This year I am really stepping into self discovery and spirituality more deeply and last week I realised I have so many limiting beliefs about myself.

Last week my brother's bestfriend, someone I liked a lot, got together with someone and that triggered so many things inside of me that I didnt even know were there. Unfortunately I took it hard, maybe because I've never experinced romance before, which also has been bothering me recently.

I look at his life and think I'll never have that many friends, I'll never have exciting experiences or I'll never find love or be intimate with anyone (Im a late bloomer, never had sex or had a boyfriend, Im 22 years🥲), I'll be stuck in my country living a mediocre life forever etc etc.

I noticed this pattern before and I realised I just dont have high hopes for myself in any regard and Im trying to change that this year. I need help feeling my feelings without ruminating, which I have been trying to do this week, I dont know if I have been very successful at it though. I experience anxiety and a lot of worrying which Im trying to work on as well. I thought I was doing better but that rocked me last week. I am willing to put in the work.

Do you have any messages or advice you can share with me? I know it's a lot, youre the only person Ive shared this with😭

Thank you for what you do on your platform, your grace inspires me, much love🤍

Hi love! Its wonderful that you’re aware of this and are willing to shift your mindset, that’s already 40% of the work.

I’ll give you a list of videos, books, and people that I recommend you check out, get a journal and write down the things that spark something within, and get into the habit of being honest with yourself (you’re already on the right track I think), don’t be afraid to write down your exact feelings, take some time with yourself to figure out why you process things a certain way, why you have certain beliefs, where do they come from, how long have you had them for, how would you react/act if you didn’t have them, which beliefs would help you be the best version of yourself, how can you implement these beliefs, etc.

So, here’s the list :

- Psycho cybernetics by Dr Maxwell Maltz (can listen to it on youtube)

- The Game of life and how to play it by Florence Scovel shinn (available on youtube as well)

- Caroline Myss’s books and conferences

- Dylan James on youtube (I usually find manifestation coaches odd lol but he’s very thorough and pushes you to get to the root cause of your triggers and blockages - he studied neuroscience as well I think)

- Jessica Richburg’s yoga videos on youtube : this is for daily movement, which has a huge impact on your mental and emotional states. Especially hip opening exercises, they’re great for emotional release.

- Dr David Snyder’s NLP (neuro linguistic programming) free lectures on youtube

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How would Blair Waldorf change her life

XOXO, Luna here. Are you tired of feeling like your life is stuck in a rut? Do you crave a change, but don't know where to start? Well, look no further, because I have nine daily habits that can truly transform your life.

Wake Up Early - The early bird catches the worm, as they say. Waking up early not only gives you more time to get things done, but it also sets a positive tone for the rest of your day.

Practice Gratitude - Take a moment each day to reflect on the things you're grateful for. It can be as simple as a good cup of coffee or as significant as your loved ones. This habit can help shift your mindset to focus on the positive things in your life.

Stay Hydrated - Drinking enough water each day is essential for maintaining good health. Not only does it keep you hydrated, but it can also improve your mood and help with digestion.

Exercise Regularly - Exercise is not only great for your physical health, but it can also boost your mental wellbeing. Find a form of exercise that you enjoy and make it a part of your daily routine.

Read - Reading is a fantastic way to expand your knowledge, improve your vocabulary, and reduce stress. Try to make time for reading every day, even if it's just for a few minutes.

Prioritize Self-Care - Take care of yourself both physically and mentally. This can include things like taking a bubble bath, meditating, or simply taking a break when you need it.

Set Goals - Setting goals helps you stay focused and motivated. Break down your big goals into smaller, more manageable ones and celebrate your progress along the way.

Get Enough Sleep - Getting enough sleep is crucial for your health and wellbeing. Aim for at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night to wake up feeling refreshed and energized.

Connect with Others - Make time to connect with the people in your life. Whether it's having a phone call with a friend or spending quality time with your family, human connection is vital for happiness and fulfillment.

Incorporating these nine daily habits into your routine can truly transform your life. It may not happen overnight, but with consistent effort, you'll begin to see positive changes in your health, happiness, and overall wellbeing.

Until next time, Upper East Siders. XOXO, Luna

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Unleashing Your Potential: Self-Help Tips for Personal Growth and Success

In the pursuit of personal growth and success, self-help techniques provide invaluable guidance and support. Drawing inspiration from the habits of successful and highly effective people, as well as the wisdom found in self-improvement books and quotes, we can empower ourselves to cultivate positive habits, overcome challenges, and unlock our true potential. In this article, we will explore self-help tips that can accelerate our journey towards self-improvement and success.

Embrace Good Habit Formation

One of the most powerful tools for personal growth is the formation of good habits. Successful individuals understand the importance of consistent, positive actions in shaping their lives. Start by identifying the habits you wish to cultivate, whether it's reading daily, exercising regularly, or practicing gratitude. Set small, achievable goals and establish a routine that supports these habits. Over time, these habits will become ingrained, leading to lasting positive change.

Learn from the Habits of Successful People

Take inspiration from the habits of successful people who have achieved remarkable results. Look for patterns in their routines, mindset, and behaviors. Identify what resonates with you and aligns with your goals. Whether it's waking up early, practicing mindfulness, or setting clear goals, incorporate these habits into your own life. Remember, success leaves clues, and by emulating the habits of successful individuals, you increase your chances of achieving similar outcomes.

Dive into Self-Improvement Books

Self-improvement books are a treasure trove of wisdom and practical guidance. They offer insights from experts in various fields, providing actionable strategies for personal growth. Explore books that resonate with your interests and goals, such as books on mindfulness, productivity, or leadership. Incorporate regular reading into your routine, and make time for reflection and implementation of the concepts you learn. By absorbing the knowledge shared in self-improvement books, you can accelerate your journey towards self-improvement.

Find Inspiration in Self-Improvement Quotes

Inspirational quotes have the power to shift our perspective and ignite motivation. Surround yourself with quotes that resonate with your aspirations and values. Create a collection of meaningful quotes and place them where you can see them daily—on your desk, as phone wallpaper, or in a journal. Whenever you need a boost of encouragement, turn to these quotes for inspiration, reaffirming your commitment to self-improvement and success.

Seek Self-Improvement Tips

Take advantage of the vast array of self-improvement tips available in various mediums—articles, podcasts, videos, and online courses. Explore topics that align with your goals, whether it's time management, communication skills, or emotional intelligence. Engage in continuous learning and implement these tips into your daily life. Experiment with different approaches, adapt what works for you, and discard what doesn't. Self-improvement is a personal journey, and by seeking out and applying relevant tips, you can make meaningful progress.

Prioritize Self Help

Self help is not just about achievement; it also emphasizes self-care. Take care of your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Make time for activities that recharge and rejuvenate you, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones. Practice self-compassion and prioritize self-care as an essential component of personal growth. Remember that taking care of yourself enables you to show up as your best self in all areas of life.

Conclusion

Self-help tips provide a roadmap for personal growth, enabling us to tap into our potential and achieve greater success. By embracing good habit formation, learning from the habits of successful people, exploring self-improvement books and quotes, seeking out relevant tips, and prioritizing self-care.

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10 Ways to Live a Happier Life

Happiness is often elusive for an unfortunate reason: our brains aren't wired that way. Instead, our brains have evolved to help us survive, protect ourselves, and stay safe. Sure, we have our moments of elation, as well as our periods of contentment and bliss. However, many of us are plagued by persistent negative emotions – we are simply stuck in the "blahs."

How can we bring more joy into our lives? It takes practice, just like anything else, to cultivate ongoing happiness. In some ways, we need to reset our baseline. It won't happen overnight, but here are the top 20 things you can do every day to unlock the secrets to a happier life.

1. Focus on positive thinking.

To find long-term happiness, you must retrain your brain to shift from a negative to a positive mindset. Try the following: Spend one to two minutes focusing on the positive aspects of your life. If you do this three times a day for 45 days, your brain will begin to do it automatically.

2. Rejoice in small victories.

Life is full of ups and downs, but in between we have a lot of little victories that go unnoticed. Take a moment to celebrate these small wins.

Like doing all your daily tasks

3. Strive for a work-life balance.

Work consumes much of our time, but it should not be the only thing we do. It is critical to pursue activities and interests outside of our jobs. Do you have a pastime? Are you spending time with your friends and family? Are you getting enough exercise? Creating balance in your life will reduce stress and provide you with additional opportunities to express yourself and have fun.

4. Exercise mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you focus on being intensely aware of what you're sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgment. Practicing mindfulness involves breathing methods, guided imagery, and other practices to relax the body and mind and help reduce stress.

5. Be creative.

The creative process is the evolution of an idea into its final form through a progression of thoughts and actions. The creative process involves critical thinking and problem-solving skills. From songwriters to television producers, creative individuals generally go through five steps to bring their ideas to fruition—preparation, incubation, illumination, evaluation, and verification. These stages were first articulated by Graham Wallas, a social psychologist and co-founder of the London School of Economics who outlined the primary stages of the creative process in his 1926 book on creativity called The Art of Thought.

6. Do what you love.

It's difficult to maintain overall happiness if you despise your job. Don't waste your best years in a job that isn't fun, even if it pays the bills. What piques your interest? What are your true interests? Focus on developing a career that motivates you and provides you with a high level of satisfaction, and your happiness mindset will skyrocket.

7. Live in the moment.

Yes, living in the moment is good. Some think that living in the moment is all about spontaneity and living life to the fullest. That’s only one perception. Living in the moment is about experiencing the world around you as it happens without injecting thought into it. The benefit of living in the moment is that there’s no stress. Stress comes from thinking. However, when we live in the present, we are free of the judgment of thoughts, allowing us to experience inner peace. There’s a sense of calm in living in the moment making life exciting, beautiful, and free. 

8. Give back.

Be giving with both your time and your money. Donate to those in need. Give to those you care about. Those who give back exhibit selflessness and humanitarianism. Those who are generous with their money tend to be in good health, possibly because giving has a feel-good effect that reduces blood pressure and stress.

9. Surprise yourself.

It's difficult to be happy if you're bored or dissatisfied with your life. Feeling stimulated, interested, and a little surprised by life is part of feeling happy. So, push yourself to achieve goals that are outside of your comfort zone. Place yourself in unfamiliar or unexpected situations. Make goals for yourself and work hard to achieve them. And don't forget to have fun!

10. Stop worrying.

Constantly worrying about everything leads to toxic anxiety, a state in which your mind is consumed by negative, spiraling thoughts. Worries plague your mind, making you fearful and apprehensive about things over which you frequently have no control. We sometimes believe that if we worry enough, we will be able to prevent bad things from happening. But the truth is that when you're consumed by worry, you can't experience joy or even contentment.

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Healing

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and caught up in the chaos of daily life. From work deadlines to family obligations and social events, it can be hard to find a moment of peace. However, finding inner peace is essential for our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Here are some ways to find peace in the midst of chaos:

Practice Mindfulness Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment and focusing your attention on your thoughts, emotions, and surroundings. By practicing mindfulness, you can learn to let go of distractions and worries and find a sense of calm in the present moment. You can practice mindfulness through meditation, yoga, or simply taking a few deep breaths and focusing on your breath.

Take a Digital Detox Technology can be a significant source of stress and distraction. Take a break from your phone, computer, and social media to disconnect and recharge. Instead, spend time in nature, read a book, or engage in an activity that brings you joy.

Simplify Your Life Sometimes, the chaos in our lives comes from having too much on our plates. Simplify your life by prioritizing your commitments and focusing on what’s most important. Say no to things that don’t serve you, delegate tasks to others, and make time for self-care.

Engage in Physical Activity Physical activity is a great way to release stress and tension from your body. Find an exercise or activity that you enjoy, such as running, yoga, or dancing, and make it a regular part of your routine.

Connect with Others Sometimes, finding peace in the midst of chaos means reaching out to others. Connect with friends and family, join a support group, or seek out professional help if needed. Talking to others can help you gain perspective and find a sense of community.

Practice Gratitude Gratitude is the practice of focusing on the positive aspects of your life and being thankful for what you have. Take time each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for, whether it’s your health, your relationships, or the beauty of nature. Focusing on gratitude can help shift your mindset and bring a sense of peace to your life.

Set Boundaries Boundaries are essential for protecting your time, energy, and well-being. Learn to say no to things that don’t align with your values and goals, and set limits on how much time you spend on work, social media, or other activities.

In conclusion, finding peace in the midst of chaos is possible, but it requires intentional effort and self-care. By practicing mindfulness, simplifying your life, engaging in physical activity, connecting with others, practicing gratitude, and setting boundaries, you can find a sense of calm and balance in your life. Remember that finding peace is a journey, not a destination, and it takes time and practice to cultivate inner peace.

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[slugtranslation-hypmic]

Hi slug! I'm quite new to your blog, but I couldn't help but be curious about the answer to doing your bachelor's in 2 years while working full time. It just blows my mind! As someone who is hardworking but stresses over stuff constantly, it really amazes me that you managed to do that. You said u are the exception to the rule of taking time off and all that, but I'm curious to know what your mindset is. Like, for me, I stress more about the idea of what I have to do and the result of what I'm doing, and I have a lot of anxious subconscious thoughts about not having enough time, or that I'm not doing as much as I could be doing (I've been dealing with some serious burnout for a while now too). I was wondering if you could explain how you approach your workload? Idk maybe this is too personal and abstract, but I'd love to know about your mindset.

🌸Anon

Hello, flower anon! I'll put this under another cut for length since I kind of rambled.

Sure, I don't mind talking about it. For starters, it's not that I don't take time off, but that I don't usually schedule full days off. I deal with anhedonia - the inability to feel pleasure from "fun" activities - pretty frequently, and because of that, it's often hard for me to find downtime activities enjoyable. However, I still get a little kick of satisfaction every time I finish a job, so I usually try to frame downtime activities in terms of tasks. For example, I might assign myself the task of reading a chapter in a favorite book or completing a quest in a video game. That way, even if anhedonia is kicking my ass, I'll still feel good about it when it's done. I try to picture my day as a constant string of activities, so when my energy is low, I'll give myself an easy, low-priority task. This could be something legitimately productive - folding laundry while listening to music, sorting files, alphabetizing books to be put away, reading background knowledge material for a translation job, etc - or a "fun" task like talking to a friend, reading a book, or playing a game.

In terms of work itself, I try to approach it as a structure that I can use to prop my life up with. I try to be careful to avoid workaholic thought patterns, since I've struggled with that before and ended up extremely distressed. Instead, I treat it as a low-stress, flexible grid with lots of little pieces whenever possible. I know hard deadlines stress me out, so I make guidelines for myself that can be shifted around if need be. (Granted, there are hard deadlines for certain things, such as job assignments, but I always set the guidelines to have them completed well before the employer appointed due date, giving me that wiggle room if I need it.) I also know that I don't usually do well when I try to do the same thing for hours on end or when approaching huge tasks, so instead I break things down into lots of small chunks and do a little each day. For instance, every day this week, I'll make sure that I do one or two things from each of the following task items:

Translation assignment 1

Translation assignment 2

Translation assignment 3

Japanese self-studying

Errand (could be grocery, getting meds, tutoring a student, whatever)

Personal chore (tidying my room, laundry, cooking for myself, washing my own dishes, etc)

Household chore (cleaning the floors, cleaning a bathroom, etc)

Exercise

Daily hygiene requirements

Hypmic (answering asks, TLing miscellaneous crap, cleaning up blog, etc.)

Fun/social (chatting with friend, reading, going out to get a cold drink or a snack, etc)

The order these things happen in and the time they take can totally vary from day to day depending on what particular needs I have and how much energy I have. Today it went like this:

Translation assignment 3 (5:30 am - 7:00)

Breakfast (7:00 - 7:15)

Translation assignment 1 (7:30 [I was talking with someone for a couple of minutes before I got back to work] - 11:00) This one went on for longer since I was editing a big chunk of text, but it doesn't always take this long. Again, it varies!

Run (11:00 am - 11:45 am)

Hygiene stuff + misc exercise (11:45 am - 12:15 pm)

Went out to get lunch and a caffeinated tea since I wanted to make sure I had enough energy for an appointment in the afternoon. Also read during lunch (12:15 pm - 1:00 pm)

Japanese self-study (1:00 pm - 2:00 pm)

Cancelled the appointment [long story] and instead worked on translation assignment 2 (2:00 pm - 4:00 pm). At the moment, I'm just doing reading for it, so I saved it for later in the day when I tend to be more tired. Also did laundry here since that's another easy task.

Went to the store to buy more cleaning supplies and other household crap (4:15 pm - 6:00 pm)

Made dinner and cleaned the kitchen (6:00 pm - 7:00 pm)

Translation assignment 2 (7:00 pm - 8:30 pm)

Answering asks and talking with friends (8:30 pm - 10:00 pm)

If you're counting the hours I spent working on job assignments themselves, this would be 8.5 hours which I think is somewhat longer than what's typical. But again, it's not sitting down for 8.5 hours straight because I struggle with that and don't like doing it. Instead, I break tasks up and move things around so I can accomplish enough that I feel fulfilled while still enjoying my time here. Also, even if that looks like just a little bit of each thing, at the end of the week I'll have:

Translated and edited between 40,000 - 50,000 Japanese characters

Completed 10+ chapters of textbook work for Japanese self-study

Kept on top of my household errands and chores

Ran between 1.5 - 2 hours

Managed my daily body upkeep

Probably called friends a couple of times, read all or most of a book, and played a few hours of a game

I do these kinds of things and approach things in this task-based mindset because it's what I've found works best for me. Since I know I struggle with a lot of basic things like executive function, feeling pleasure from downtime activities, speaking out loud, etc - I build systems for myself to let me live a happy, healthy lifestyle on my own terms. I don't think this sort of lifestyle is necessarily applicable to everyone, but it doesn't have to be. It's something I created within the definitions of my disability and my capabilities.

So with all that being said, I can't prescribe something that will magically apply to your life, but I highly encourage you to experiment to find things that work best for you. Obviously, when I was working full-time while in school, the tasks I had were usually much more important, but I still followed the same general format of treating each day as a series of small, movable tasks. Whatever frameworks you choose to create can apply to the busiest or the most relaxed of lives.

In your situation in particular, flower anon, I understand how you feel with those anxieties. If you're stressing over what you have to do and find it overwhelming on a daily basis, you probably need to find a way to reduce your workload. Chunking - the process of breaking big assignments into smaller tasks - tends to help with anxieties when assignments seem too large and unapproachable.

It's challenging to fight back against the thoughts that you could be doing more than what you're already doing. But at the core of it, isn't this a silly argument? Every minute of your life, you're doing something. You're working, or you're learning, or you're sleeping, or you're eating, or you're playing with your friends. How are you supposed to do more than that? What, are you supposed to pull a 25th hour of the day out of your ass? Value your time, especially the time you spend resting and taking care of yourself. It's good to enjoy resting, and it's good to enjoy working as well. These are all parts productive elements of life. When you sleep, you are producing a rested mind to give yourself a better day tomorrow. When you talk with your friends, you are producing happiness and fulfilling social needs for yourself and other people. Physically reminding yourself - I mean saying out loud, "I am being productive as I do x" or "Y is a valuable use of my time" - for every thing you do can help you mentally reinforce this concept. And what happens if you discover non-valuable uses of your time? Engaging in petty arguments that don't bring yourself or anyone else any value, spending time scrolling on your phone without enjoying it, taking a class or activity just because you feel like you should but not enjoying it or earning anything from it - then drop it from your life, because your time is much too precious for you to spend it unhappily and unproductively. Produce for yourself a better life whenever you can, as long as the definition of "better life" is one that you decide for yourself.

This is a very rambling, abstract answer, but I hope it is some help to you. Best of luck.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/shiftingrealities/comments/n2jjdb/how_to_reprogram_your_subconscious_for_reality/

What’s included:

Reprogramming the subconscious:

The subconsciousness is the part of your mind that works below your consciousness. It works behind the scenes, absorbing or rejecting information based on an existing perception you have of the world around you.

The subconsciousness was programmed this way from when you were an infant to the age of 7, which was when your brain was in a theta state (hypnosis state) learning by observing everything your parents did. After the age of 7, the way you learn changes to repetition and habituation, doing something repeatedly until you're good at it.

So you've been trying to shift, but whatever you do something or the other comes up or you keep sabotaging yourself at every point? Doubts, negative thoughts, demotivation... More likely you’ve got some old programmed messages that conflict with the new conditions you want to create.

See, shifting isn't something taught to you and it contradicts a lot with what we knew to be true, but you can teach your subconsciousness that shifting is something that you can do as easily as washing the dishes or riding a bike.

You can do this by reprogramming your subconsciousness.

4 Day Approach to Reprogram Your Subconsciousness:

Mornings:

1: Wake up, and do the exercises to relax yourself and rid yourself of negative thoughts to set the tone for the day. (Check the end of this document.)

2: As you go on throughout the day, say that everything you do is actually helping you shift. For example, you're going to brush your teeth? Think to yourself, brushing my teeth is going to bring me a step closer to shifting. You're going to be productive and study for your exams? Think to yourself, doing this is actually bringing me closer to shifting.

3: Create a google doc. In the first page, write down a list of your beliefs. In the second page, write down a list of what you don't believe in. Place shifting in your list of beliefs. Read the list of beliefs out loud. Use this technique to get rid of any limiting beliefs you have about reality shifting.

4: Since the subconscious mindset can be rewritten by repetition you should write over and over again the intention as if it was already a reality, ex. "I am capable of shifting on command", this should be done on a daily basis until repetition becomes a habit.

5: Personality creates personal reality, meaning that if we can adapt ourselves to a desired outcome before it arrives our subconscious thinks of it as something that is currently happening, making it actually happen.

Nights:

1: Meditate while affirming that you believe in shifting and that shifting is real.

2: Fall asleep while listening to hypnosis videos on reprogramming the mind. (optional)

3: Layer affirmations with theta waves. (optional)

Relaxation Technique:

1: Sit in a comfortable position where you have leg room.

2: Lift up your right leg and stretch it, holding the muscles tight. Keep it that way for about 20 seconds, then relax.

3: Do the same thing next for your right leg, then your left hand and right hand. (Basically you lift up your arm, keep your hand in a tight fist, hold it for 20 seconds then release and relax)

4: Tighten your abdominal muscles for 20 seconds, relax.

5: Tighten your chest muscles, relax.

6: Same thing, but with back and neck muscles.

7: Lastly, scrunch up your face tightly but not to the point where it hurts. Then relax.

8: Do some deep breathing for a minute or two.

9: Now, tighten all the muscles of your body, legs, hands, shoulders, face, abdomen, chest. Keep it tight for a few seconds. Then close your eyes, and relax them.

10: This is the time to let go of all the tension and pressure. All the muscles are going in a deep state of relaxation. Clear your mind of all thoughts. Let your mind be completely free in a deep calm state of relaxation.

Negative Thought Removal:

1: Identify thoughts of repetitive negative nature. Bring those thoughts back to your mind. For example: "I will not be able to shift", "I'm a horrible person", "I'm good for nothing".

2: When the thought comes, clap your hands and say: "stop". And immediately go back to the state of relaxation you were in before in the relaxation exercise.

3: You'll notice the more you repeat this exercise, let the negative thoughts in, clap and then go to a state of relaxation, the more time it takes for the negative thoughts to appear again. Soon enough they won't appear at all.

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Becoming Greater Than Your Environment: Things You Didn’t Know You Didn’t Know

Positive habits and a positive environment play an important role in our lives. Having a positive environment encourages us to make better choices and cultivate effective habits. Before we know it sometimes, we have fallen into the rabbit hole of spending your days surrounded by negative people or situations that then affect your energy, confidence and perspective but it doesn't have to be that way. If you want more positivity in your life, then you can start by learning how to become greater than your environment.

You Are In Control Of Your Life, No One Else

You are in control of your life and no one else. While we have friends, family and groups that are there to help and motivate us, ultimately it is up to us to take the action steps needed to become an elevated version of ourselves. No matter how many people try to tell you that your environment determines everything about who you are and what you do, it's simply not true. Our environment doesn't determine who we are unless WE ALLOW it to. Whenever we hear success stories about individuals who built a life greater than what their environment measured them to be it is because they did not allow themselves to be chained to that environment for the rest of their lives. They made the choice to be greater, in order to do better, so that they could have better.

You Are A Sum Of Your Habits

Habits are the things we do without thinking. They are functions of our life that are so ingrained in us that they require no effort to perform. Habits can take many forms and they can be either effective or ineffective depending on what we are striving to accomplish. In the widely popular book "Atomic Habits" by author James Clear, he notes that there is no such thing as good or bad habits but instead effective or non-effective habits that impact our daily routines and lifestyle. It is our choice to decide what habits we will choose to either stay where we are or reach that place or person we want to be.

Studies have shown that it takes 21 days to form a consistent habit, effective or non effective. Whenever we are incorporating something new into our routine such as becoming consistent with social media posting, changing our eating habits or stepping into a new territory where the out come is truly up to us, at first it can seem hard or almost like a chore to a degree but if we can shift our mindset to how we look at this new activity and try our best to stay consistent with it then soon it will become an effective habit that will feel more and more natural as time goes on that you will get to a point of just doing without putting too much thought into it.

If you can shift your mindset to view the activity as something that is done to benefit your overall being instead of something you have to do, to feel like you are doing something for yourself then you will be able to enjoy it so much more. For example when I would think about going to the gym my mindset was that this was something that I was doing with the purpose of losing some weight before a vacation or event to feel more comfortable and confident. Once I reached that 'end' point, I found myself not going back to the gym until the next one came around. Now when I exercise at home or go to the gym I view that time as me taking care of my physical and mental health that will benefit me for years to come as I get older. Growing to love the feeling of what that means to me I don't have to put much thought into it because I have now prioritized the feeling of being physically in shape and the mental feeling of it as well. It has now become a form of self care that is embedded into how I measure my day and daily routine.

The Significant Role That Your Environment Plays

Your environment plays a significant role in the choices you make. As a result, how you feel is often dictated by the people and things around you. If someone is constantly telling you things about yourself that aren’t true, it can negatively impact how you see yourself and your abilities.

This is why it’s so important to surround yourself with people who believe in you and give encouragement instead of criticism or discouragement. Have you ever heard of the term toxic work environment? Having a toxic work environment can make one feel less motivated to want to continue their job, and be consumed by the energy of that environment so it brings the mood down significantly and overall less motivated. So we either have the choice of being consumed by that energy or influencing it to become more positive.

Influencing The Room

A famous quote by Eight time Olympic gold medalist, Usain Bolt is "Don't adapt to the energy in the room, Influence the energy in the room. To add to his quote he also stated even if it is online. Everyone probably knows that one somebody that others would refer to as "the life of the party" or that person that people naturally gravitate towards because of their bright personalities, aura and energy that radiates to whomever they come across. To some we may ask ourselves how are they able to do that? Why do people gravitate towards them so naturally? Well, because those are the people that are able to walk into a room and just naturally want to uplift the energy. They're not worried about what others are thinking about them or influenced by the actions of or stares that they may receive. That is also what I call THAT Girl Energy.

You can be the positive energy that influences those around you, and influence them to become elevated versions of themselves. Sometimes we will debate, well if I did it for myself then why can't they? It is important to be empathetic and compassionate to those around us. Not everyone has the same starting point, capacity or confidence to do it on their own. Which is ok because they may not start with the confidence but that is something that can be built upon to help the next individual(s). That starting point may have been rough and difficult but that is only a testimony to share and as we can continue to grow into those versions that we want to become, our capacity for empathy and compassion can grow by reminding ourselves that we are all human. We may not all go through the same situations in life but if you know what it's like to feel limited, fearful and not so confident at a point, putting yourself in others shoes that are going through that will open your heart to different perspectives.

If your friends have an idea they want to pursue, encourage them to follow through with it. If they’re having trouble with something at work or school, offer advice and help if possible (and make sure they know there are resources available if not).

If someone asks for your advice in a difficult situation, don’t just shrug it off and say “I dunno…” Instead give thoughtful and insightful answers and be ready to lend support when needed. Make sure everyone knows what they mean to you by showing them how much they matter while also understanding the importance of boundaries. There is a difference between being that supportive friend or family member versus trauma bonding through similar experiences and becoming a personal therapist or life coach for those around you if that is not your intention.

Create A System That Supports Progress

You don't have to be in the "perfect"place mentally or emotionally to work towards making your goals reality. All you need is an action plan and systems in place that support progress and holding yourself accountable for everything that you do.

A system is anything that helps you take action. It could be as simple as writing down your goals on paper, or taking it a step further by using a habit tracker app for every goal so that you can track your progress over time. The key here is to create something concrete, something tangible that will remind you of what work needs to get done, when it needs to get done, and why it needs getting done (in other words: your WHY). A great place to start is writing down your WHY. Your why can be why you want to get started on something, change a habit or decide that it's time to stop being who you thought you had to be to become who you want to be.

Of course, no system works unless it's regularly implemented and improved upon—so if you don't have one in place yet but think this seems like something worth trying out, get on it! Get some paper, open the notes app on your phone and write down all the things that matter most right now: things like how you can improve your confidence or how you plan to stop living with the expectations that others have put upon you and living a life that makes you feel good. Whatever you feel like you can improve on, write it down. Say it out loud and come up with an action plan for yourself.

Becoming Greater

In order to become greater than our environment, it is imperative that we also reflect on the parts about ourselves that we can also work on. When we change our environment we can change ourselves in ways that we may not have thought to be possible. Have you ever known or heard of someone that chooses to move frequently because they don't feel like that place is for them, sometimes it's not the place but in fact it's just us. If we carry the mindset that we did when we arrive in this new environment thinking that is what is going to take us to new heights then we have to give ourselves a reality check. We have to open our ears, mind and heart to new possibilities of doing things, eliminating things that no longer serve us and shedding who we once were to become who we want to be.

Have you ever been to a family function lets use Thanksgiving for an example and you walk into a room where a group of your family members are sitting around talking negatively or gossiping about others that may even be in the next room. You can choose to be the individual to get roped into the negative talk and join in even if you are just listening or looking for a quick ki-ki or keep it pushing and go about your business. Taking it a step further by redirecting the conversation to something positive like how good the food is or even dishing a compliment. Now you've just taken that negative energy out of the space and implemented positivity. Usually others will follow that positivity and keep it going in the conversations they're having as well.

Environmental Limitations

No matter what your current or past circumstances are, if you set your mind to it, carry that vision, speak it aloud and sow the seeds to your garden then you will see it grow into something beautiful. You can do anything that you put your mind to as long as your heart and mind are aligned. When that happens you are able to recognize your state of emotions on a daily basis and use your mind to figure out what is and is not working for you. This is the importance of walking with intention, confidence and faith!

Also, never allow anyone to tell you that your dreams aren't achievable or that you are dreaming "too big" because you can never dream too big. Don't let anyone tell you that there's something wrong with wanting to surround yourself in a different environment that goes outside of the 'norms'. Sometimes people can make us feel as though we are the strange ones for wanting something that is different then what we have been surrounded by or seen our entire lives but in all actuality you are choosing not to live a complacent life to others expectations.

Identify The Things That Make You Special

There are a lot of things that make you special. There is something about you that makes you different from everyone else in the world. It is up to you to find those special qualities about yourself and use them to your advantage. Maybe it’s your unique way of connecting with others or maybe it is your ability to make a positive difference in someone’s life. Make those special qualities loud and visible to the world because you may just not know who you are impacting or motivating.

Whatever it is, identify those things and use them as inspiration for moving forward in life. If you want to be greater than your environment then find out what makes you special and use that as an inspiration for changing yourself and others around you.

I hope that by reading this post you were able to take away some valuable information about yourself and how your environment can affect your behavior. In order to succeed in life, you need the right mindset and a solid system to support your goals. This blog post will show you how easy it is to control your own destiny by changing what surrounds you and implementing new habits into your daily routine!

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Tips For Elevating Your Life✨

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Femme Fatale Guide: How To Live In Your Dark Feminine Energy

Learning to live in your dark feminine energy allows you to reclaim your power and enables you to move through the world as the strong, smart, seductive, and socially intelligent individual you're meant to be. Here's a general guide on the principles, mindset shifts, and behaviors to internalize to embrace your dark femininity.

Set Boundaries: In your work life, family life, social life, and intimate relationships. "No" is a complete sentence. Don't overextend yourself for the sake of others' approval.

Practice Self-Care: Indulge in the activities and habits that enable you to be your best self. Eat well and exercise. Practice proper hygiene. Establish a consistent skincare routine. Find books, music, and movies, a yoga practice, or meditation that relaxes you at the end of the day.

Invest In Your Appearance: Presenting yourself well is a sign of self-respect and social awareness. Find clothes that fit well, are stylish, match well together, and are clean/pressed whenever you wear them out. Establish a consistent, flattering beauty routine (makeup, hair, nails). Discover your signature scent. Maintain good posture and composure during interpersonal interactions. Learn social skills. Practice emotional intelligence. Figure out how to read social cues.

Embrace Your Sexuality: Let go of any shame. Wear lingerie daily to make yourself feel irresistible. Dress in a way that empowers you to subtly embrace your sensual side. Self-pleasure to learn about and feel confident in your body. Speak up to get your needs met with a partner. Explore this aspect of your life and personality.

Cultivate Confidence: In every area of your life (career, family, social, intimacy, etc.). Learn what you want and find out how to get there. Hold your head up high and know you're deserving. Be the woman who holds her own in any room or conversation.

Remain Educated & Well-Read: Being smart and worldly is incredibly seductive. Knowledge is power when it comes to learning how to advance in every area of life, gain a deeper understanding of your interests and goals, and makes you into a better conversation partner (a skill that opens many opportunities if you allow yourself to stay in this confident headspace without letting imposter syndrome or fear get to you).

Ultimately, living in your dark feminine energy is about honoring your needs and every aspect of your being. Know you're worth it and the world instantly feels more like a chess board and less intimidating.

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Hi! Do you have any tips on how to get out of a Si grip + 7 disintegrating to 1?

I'm an entp going through a very stressful time due to exams and I feel like my mindset shifted so drastically that I can't enjoy anything right now. I'm a very laid back person, I try to get the best out of everything (due to 7 + Ne combo), but I've been put into too many situations where there's too much to absorb, and now I'm angry at myself for not being productive enough, not paying enough attention to what I should be paying, which lead to an impossible perfectionism, some standard within myself that I'm holding very very high. I feel like if I fail this, I will fail everything else. I can't see the good side of the situation, and I feel drained. It's so bad that I can't eat properly or sleep anymore. As you are a Ne dom yourself, do you have any tips on how to move on from this?

Prioritize your health habits first, and see if you can settle things down in that regard (eat at specific times, eat things that are good for you, go to bed at the same time every night so your body learns to form a sleep habit, get some exercise to clear your head, etc).

Angry at myself for not being productive enough -- I know the feeling and I deal with this on a daily basis, so I feel your pain. :P

Something that might help you is a passage I just read in a book about productivity -- that the more you FORCE yourself to do something for a long time (past your creative limit), the worse your output. For example, let's say that you can write really excellent material for two hours, whether for pleasure or an essay. But you push yourself, and write for four or five hours. Most of what you wrote is probably crap, because you pushed yourself hard to 'get it done' instead of going into it fresh. You need to learn to set goals -- I will do no less than X, but no more than Y, and stay within them. Quitting before you are exhausted leaves your brain creative room to go back into the project next time with enthusiasm, rather than you waking up tomorrow morning feeling exhausted and burned out, from having used up way too many of your mental resources.

Set yourself reasonable goals, and then... remind yourself that if you burn out, you can't get ANYTHING done / your work will be crap, which will give you permission to walk away from it.

I also want you to think about perfectionism. Really think about it. Can perfect exist? No, because perfect is subjective. What is perfect to one person, isn't to somebody else. Perfect is an invisible standard that you can never achieve. And here's another hot tip: striving for perfection means wasting your mental resources and time. If you could work 300 more hours on a project, and have it be only 10% better... is that worth your time and energy, if it's 80% good? Nope. You need to think rationally about seeking the unattainable being stupid and wasteful, and that will make you feel less pressured to aim for a bar that doesn't even exist.

If you are drained, you need to rest. Period. When are your exams over? How do you re-ignite 7? Start thinking about doing fun things once you are free of your exams. What are you going to do to celebrate all of this hard work? Buy that book you've been dying to read? Go see that movie you want to see? Eat at that restaurant you love? Have a date with that friend you haven't seen in weeks? I used to motivate myself through hard things by putting something I loved or wanted on the other side of them. ;)

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Protection and Peace Jewelry - Toxic Money Mentality: The 7-Day Detox

Protection and Peace Jewelry - Toxic Money Mentality: The 7-Day Detox

We've heard a lot about our Money Spell Bracelet articles via Instagram, Facebook, and email, and how helpful they have even influenced a lot of people to overcome their money phobia and develop a healthier money mindset.

It was then that a BFF of a talented woman and a Luxa employee told us about her adventures in making money and how it all happened on New Year's Eve 2005. A friend of hers persuaded her to go to Spirit Crystal Yoga Center to celebrate the night with yoga, prayer, dance and breathing exercises for the new year, instead of donning her new clothes and having a night out partying with her friends.

"All I think about is what a boring way to bring in the new year. I'd rather get dressed and hang out with my friends for a night out. It's just, I realize I've been doing it this year and year after year," My life hasn't changed much. I struggled with money; my career had nowhere to go, let alone my relationships with men. So I reluctantly agreed. "

Dressed in yoga pants and a T-shirt, she ventures away, taking her far away from a passionate friend, on a journey that unites her mind, body and soul with little to no eyeballs and disbelief.

When she arrived at the yoga center, she was stunned by the Protection and Peace Jewelry of the studio space, and how many people were already there, front and center, happy to be there. She noticed the high beamed ceilings, the stage, the beautiful bracelet pillows everywhere, the friendly energy bracelets, and her perspective on how to spend New Year's Eve constructively.

Forced to take off their shoes and socks, the girls walked to the middle of the crowd, grabbed pillows and seats, and sat down. As a New Yorker who now lives in Beverly Hills, she was struck by how nice and friendly everyone was, and her nostalgia for spending time with drunken friends and strangers disappeared.

A surprise awaits her. Tonight will be a game changer. A night of kundalini yoga (breathing exercises), affirmations, chanting and finale performances where everyone clasped their hands and built a (love bracelet) bridge that everyone had a chance to walk across.

Four hours later, they were happily exhausted when they sat down to a delicious vegetarian meal. Just next to their plate is a booklet with 365 daily spell bracelets to carry around.

She came home exhausted, watched a few spells, and fell asleep. The unforgettable night was with her every day for weeks, as was the incredible positivity. This caused a paradigm shift in her thinking. Now that she knows the difference between thinking and feeling a lack or prosperity, her primary focus is generating more income and working with people she's known for years but fears reaching out to.

With all these updated energy balance bracelets, she knows it won't last unless she takes action. "It's like exercise. You can't just do it once and expect results. It has to go on." At this moment, she knew what she needed to do.

She went back to the center and started exploring all the courses they taught and was amazed that there were so many courses in different subjects. Now a huge fan of Kundalini Yoga, she wanted to sign up for a course that would change the trajectory of her relationship with money and her confidence in owning her own business.

She considered herself "fearless" until she started making money and starting a business. The thought alone made her numb. Can we get in touch? We can. She doesn't have a positive relationship with money and realizes that she has a toxic money mentality that prevents her from jumping.

What common money mindsets do we live with day in and day out that prevent us from being successful?

Everything starts from the heart. How rich, poor or weak we think we are, we are! Most of us didn't grow up with a lot of money and had working-class parents looking after their kids, paying the bills, and saving up to take us on vacations. That is a beautiful necklace; hard work is honorable. However, many of us today want more for ourselves and our families than just working hard to survive, we want to thrive.

We live in a generation where we understand the importance of positivity versus negativity and how it affects our day to day. We don't need to live like our parents unless we also choose to. Otherwise, we can make anything happen, and to do that, your mindset needs to focus on what you can create and what you can't.

This is a 7-day drug money detox program that will free you from the drug money mentality you carry around and replace it with hope, possibility, action, and accountability. It's interesting. Not only that, but miracles and transformations will begin to happen. Like tidying up a room, we do this with our minds.

Detox Day 1: Attitude Of Gratitude

If you don't appreciate what you have now, you will never be rich or happy. Write down 7 things you are grateful for right now. Look around you; you probably take many things for granted. Here are some examples:

I am thankful for my hair I am grateful for my child I am grateful for my house I am grateful for my dog/cat

Once you're done, place it where you can see it every day for 10 days.

Detox Day 2: Scarcity Is Absurd

Scarcity, or the belief that you don't have enough, can trigger an all-consuming stress and anxiety that prevents you from focusing and trying to understand that it has no power over you unless you give it power. It also means you don't trust your ability to "bring me money" and you have everything you need. For the next 10 days, you will practice gratitude every day.

Take a one-dollar bill every day and keep it in your hands. Sit quietly and repeat the mantra necklace "I have confidence in myself and my ability to make money." Put that dollar bill on your nightstand or next to your computer. You will do this with new dollar bills every day for 10 days. At the end of the 10 days, you will see the money pile up and your drug money mentality will dissipate. If you need to do 30 days, do it. you will transfer. You can always put those dollars in a jar or piggy bank.

Detox Day 3: Write Your Negative Money Thoughts

Sit quietly with a piece of paper and a pen. Notebook, printer paper, it doesn't matter. Take a deep breath and write down your fears about money. Don't kid yourself. This will help a lot.

I don't have the first clue how to make money. I hate my job. People take advantage of me. I wish I had more confidence.

Now with those negative, toxic money thoughts, fold the paper in quarters, walk to the trash can, kiss the paper, and throw it away with those words. "You don't serve me anymore, thank you." Done!

Detox Day 4: I Have No Lack In My Life

As above, sit quietly with a piece of paper and write down 10 positive money mantra rings. You don't need to look them up. If you're stuck or let your creativity flow and write your own, here are a few to get you started.

Put that piece of paper somewhere; you'll see it every day for 10 days. Bathroom mirrors are great but watch out for the heat in the shower. It is important to recite them every day for 10 days.

I am not lacking. I am connected to a good energy bracelet of money sources. I live in peace with other wealthy people. I am creating my wealth. I have confidence in myself and my ability to make money. I am showing my dream job. I am showing connections to help me make money. I am mentally aligned with the universal healing energy bracelet around money. I am cutting the cords of negative thought patterns. Cash is out of my control.

Detox Day 5: Believe To Receive

In this moment, you will forgive all your money mistakes. Say it out loud, "I totally forgive myself for making a financial mistake." Done! Now let's move on, you've forgiven yourself, it's a huge shift.

Now go on to say, "I release any guilt about money, and I'm willing to accept it." Recite this sentence 10 times with one breath in between. Inhale, Tibetan mantra bracelet, exhale, and repeat. You can do this on day 5, and if you need to release your Toxic Money Mindset, you can continue to do it every day for 10 days. It works just fine.

Detox Day 6: Enjoy The Here And Now

We have been doing a lot of practice for the past 5 days and today you will spend the whole day re-aligning and adjusting your mind. All day, no matter what, you'll be repeating, "I'm here now, and I'm grateful." Over and over. When your mind starts to turn to anything negative, you take a break, take a deep breath, and repeat that charm bead bracelet. Most importantly, as you lay down for bed, repeat, "I'm here now and I'm grateful."

Detox Day 7: Unlock Your Wealth Potential

"I don't have money, so I can't invest." The oldest word in the book when it comes to toxic money mentality. Money is fluid, fluid, and you can attract it anytime, anywhere, but only if you believe in yourself and take action.

Now you will invest in yourself, get rid of toxic money thoughts and unleash old patterns. On day 7 today, you will write "I am a money magnet" and you will start taking action to be that magnet.

Take a piece of paper (by now, you should know this is the key : ) and write the words verbatim. Put that paper on the refrigerator. Every time you go to the refrigerator, you will chant this money mantra bead necklace before opening the door.

I AM A MONEY MAGNET BECAUSE:

I am mentally organized and aligned with making money. I go all out to make money. I am totally open to help with making money. I'm all for the luxury jewelry life. Regarding the idea of cash, I totally agree with forgiveness. I release any guilt and shame about money. The law of cause and effect surrounds me in the positive money energy stone bracelet. I have absolutely no shortage in my life and understand the principles of being a money magnet. Freeing your mind from a toxic money mentality is critical to your ability to release fear rather than remain rigid. You deserve to be happy and prosperous, and if you follow these exercises, it will make a difference.

The woman we talked about earlier who owns a very successful gym in Burbank, CA is a true BFF who has transformed her life from an employee to a business owner and thrived… Such inspiration.

At Luxa, we are your partner and we want to make sure your days are filled with love necklaces, joy, positivity, protection bracelets and prosperity. Our exquisite collection of authentic gemstones can help you achieve the prosperity and confidence you seek.

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Rachel Amber, The Broken Angel Who Demonized Herself

Fair warning, please bear with this probably incredibly **longass** (I’m not kidding it’s rlly long) analysis of one of the fandom’s most controversial disliked characters, Rachel Amber. This is just my attempt to analyze her character based on observation from BtS to LiS so by no means do you have to accept them. Productive discussions are obviously very welcomed :D

In LiS, when we asked about Rachel around campus, most of them had nothing but compliments and praises for the missing girl. She was essentially an honorary Vortex Club member who socialised with the snobs, yet she also hung out with the skater stoners and was friendly with those at the bottom of the social hierarchy. Then we see those graffiti around where it hints at Rachel’s promiscuity, debts and conflicts with other people. That’s the first sign we see that Rachel Amber isn’t as perfect as everyone was making her out to be. Afterwards we discover that Rachel was a stoner herself and into whatever drugs there were, partied harder than anyone else, promiscuous, entered a relationship with local drug dealer Frank Bowers while having a secret relationship with Psycho teacher Mark Jefferson— all while maintaining a 4.0 GPA in her studies and being considered perfect and adored by practically everyone in her school. The girl’s incredible, obviously, or maybe scary for someone to be so spread out in everything.

Rachel was a straight A student with a 4.0 GPA, an administrative assistant to the Principal, beloved by students and faculty alike, literal goddess beauty, had ambitions to be a model and study international law, daughter of the DA and was the closest to perfection anyone would ever be— so what went wrong? What made her romanticise the idea of running away from a town where everyone loves and adores her?

Because of the above.

Yes, it may sound whiny and dramatic to feel tired of being loved and being the center of attention all the time, but there’s no point to it if it’s not you who they adore, but the person you’re pretending to be— (“I was feeling angsty and reckless. Tired of living up to the perfect image everybody expects out of me.”) —especially when you have to do so much just to maintain the lie.

Throughout LiS and BtS, Rachel’s ability to get along with everyone was always mentioned. At face value she was akin to a social butterfly. She hung out with stoners regardless of their social status (skaters or the vortex club), was friendly with anyone regardless of their place in the social hierarchy (eg; Daniel/Evan/Steph/Drew/Nathan) or even to strangers others usually ignored (Samuel/Homeless lady). Like Evan said, Her friends were her friends. She wasn’t one to let peer pressure affect her relationships so she wasn’t afraid to make all those acquaintances.

However, for those who knew her closely (Chloe and Jefferson), she was referred to as a chameleon, someone who blended in with everyone and everywhere seamlessly. This was an important detail regarding who Rachel was and her intimacy with others. To be able to make that comparison, they would’ve needed to know who the person Rachel actually was underneath the masks she’d created over the years. Chloe was the first to truly see and accept her for who she was. Jefferson was the one who exploited her for it.

For most, being a social chameleon would count as a beneficial social skill if they’re subtle. So long as the person doesn’t lose themselves in the process and is able to separate their personas from their true self, it remains a skill and will be used as such.

The problem with Rachel was that it transcended beyond a skill. A social chameleon was *what* she became, and that led to losing her own sense of identity, to becoming a stranger in her own body.

We see her confiding to Chloe about this feeling in Brave New World: (“Do you think there’s a point when you’ve been acting so much that you don’t even have your own personality anymore? You’re just whatever you think other people want you to be?”) —to which Chloe tells her she does have a personality because she assumed Rachel was talking about herself. But Rachel apparently wasn’t and clarifies she was talking about her father. She then elaborates on how her father doesn’t really exist, that how he was in the principal’s office was a mere performance and then the actual truth— that she’s afraid she’ll end up like him.

No matter how you interpret that scene, the conclusion is that one of Rachel’s fears was becoming like James— someone who’s been so wrapped up in all the lies and manipulation that he no longer seemed recognisable to even his own daughter.

At that point her defence mechanism of deflection and avoidance came into play after Chloe got a little too close to home. We first see this on the train scene when they play Two Truths and a Lie. Rachel gave factual statements as opposed to Chloe who gave facts that elaborated into her personal life. At one point Chloe can ask how Rachel knew about having a distal radius fracture and It’s a very minor detail, but when she explains that it’s because she broke her wrist when she was 10, she says it extremely fast. When Chloe is about to press for more info about something personal no matter what option you choose, Rachel dismissively turns around the conversation from herself back to Chloe again.

The next time we see her deflecting is right after witnessing her father cheating. When Chloe asks about her, Rachel deflects and guilt trips her into somehow thinking she’s at fault for failing to get them wasted and then proceeds to drown her sorrows into alcohol instead of opening up. Afterwards when they find the junkyard, Rachel chooses to isolate herself from Chloe and withdraws to the corner, getting irritated if Chloe chooses to invade her space. When Chloe confronts her about her sudden moodiness, Rachel yet again deflects and shifts the attention to Chloe by essentially telling her she’s self-centred. This scene was classic Deflection 101 brought by Rachel’s defence mechanism to cope with her father’s betrayal.

Rachel uses deflection and avoidance as a defence mechanism, a habit which stems from the dynamics of the Amber family. When you have a Politician as a father whose life work is to manipulate and lie, and a Stepford Wife as a mother who wilfully acts like a servant to her husband out of sacrifice and duty— an environment of deceit and suppression of one’s feelings will be fostered. This is what shapes Rachel to be distrusting and unhealthily altruistic as we see in BtS.

And so Rachel’s deflection is driven by 2 things: mistrust (James) and her unhealthy altruism (Rose).

As a district attorney, James unfortunately carried his work persona into his personal life and can be presumed to lie to even his own family on a daily basis to the point that Rachel can tell when he’s lying: (“When your Dad is the District Attorney, I guess lying is...something you're used to.”) (Why can't you just tell me the fucking truth?! Stop lying! Stop being a politician for one fucking minute! Can’t you just be my Dad?”) What that tells us is that Rachel’s actually used to being lied at and treated with cynicism, so naturally that would make her guarded around others. Not to mention since James often exercised his professional prerogative (just recall how he spoke to Chloe and her comment about his micro-aggressions towards his own family), it’s most likely that he was also cynical towards people in general and carried that mindset forward at Rachel as well.

As for Rose, you have to really observe how she carried herself and her choice of words. A lot of people pointed out how robotic she sounded and blamed it on bad voice acting, but I think that was actually intentional. She was too mannered, too submissive and too robotic as a person. It’s not exactly a bad thing, but a lot of her personality seemed to be too... *political* for the sake of her husband’s political career. It was altruistic in the way that she sacrificed her own needs for her husband’s and was unfailingly supportive (eg; preparing dinner all by herself, *respectfully* asking James for his drink, even going so far as to excuse James for kissing Sera like wtf). Point is, Rose was the stereotypical political wife whose job was to shut up, look good and smile for her husband while he does the talking. At one point in the dinner scene when they start fighting, James even dared to say ‘Rose, let me handle this’ as if Rose’s voice was irrelevant and unimportant to the table (when he literally just got exposed for cheating lmao).

So what happens when your family environment consists of a father who actively lies and uses manipulation to twist facts, expects you to be compliant in exchange for rewards (birthday money), has the ability to read people, and a mother who does too much for someone who does the barest minimum for the family and represses herself for the sake of others? An environment of deceit and suppression will be fostered, and you develop all of their qualities, for better or worse. That’s difficult to change when your own family dynamics molded you to be that way and then reward you for it. If you recall, Rachel’s mannerisms changed completely when in front of her family and if Chloe complained about having to play the goody two shoes formal well-behaved humorless girl, Rachel would say: ‘try doing it your whole life’. So not only was she playing different roles in school but evidently at home as well.

But It’s not as if the Amber family was aware of the toxic environment they’d created. That’s just what their normal was: to be well-mannered, formal, professional, mature and well-articulated.

This is where Rachel’s social chameleon tendencies develops. Social chameleons usually have reasons for blending in when it comes to personal relationships:

1. Being liked is important for them (they value what people think of them).

2. They want to blend in so as to not stand out (they don’t like attention).

3. They’re doing it to make the other person comfortable (the needs of others come first before theirs).

Considering how Rachel was extremely popular, active in all sorts of school activities and enjoyed the attention of being the star, no. 2 is out. She confessed to wanting to stop being a social chameleon and didn’t seem to care much about Victoria’s dislike of her + she also did it to her family so no. 1 is out as well, which leaves us to no. 3— doing it for the comfort of others. In other words, because she *gave too much shit about other people all the time*.

What further supports the point of Rachel’s unhealthy altruism is what she says to Chloe at the junkyard— (“Maybe you should try giving a shit about other people for once.”) —which essentially tells us that she’s been doing exactly that to be able to lecture Chloe into following her own perspective. Another example would be what she tells Chloe during their therapy session: “—Because she was tired of having to give so many fucks all the time.”

One thing however that all *extreme* social chameleons share is the fact that they **loathe** themselves, or at the very least— dislike who they are. Why else would they go all the trouble of creating different personas for everyone to the point of forgetting their own, if they actually liked themselves?

One of the many things that Chloe and Rachel shared in common was their self-awareness in how undeniably shitty they can be, and that they hated who they were. Whereas Chloe embraced that whole part of her down her self destructive road, Rachel tried to cover hers up by playing other roles for people. Both girls played their sides to the ends of the spectrum; Chloe being selfish (causing problems for everyone in general unnecessarily) and Rachel being selfless (posing no problem for anyone in general even if there was a problem). They had no healthy balance and their unhealthy mindset ultimately drove them down a self destructive path.

Rachel knew she was selfish by nature, and that she’d take it out on Chloe in Ep 1. That’s why instead of talking about what was wrong, she chose to drown herself to alcohol and distance herself from Chloe. When Chloe confronts her about it, she either tells her that not everything revolves around her or that she should try giving a shit about people for once. In other words, ‘Other people have bigger problems than you so shut up and don’t make it worse for them.’ That was Rachel’s mentality and in that moment of poor lapse in judgment, she applied that logic to Chloe expecting her to think the way she does— to put others before yourself.

With Rachel, she always had her walls up and couldn’t help it even if she wanted to because it's practically second nature to have her guard up (“I never said how dearly I hold thee; my habit's been to keep my soul well-draped.“). It’s only in her lowest vulnerable moments is when she finally let her walls down because that’s when she’s too tired to keep them up.

Luckily (or unluckily) for Rachel, she recognized her problem. The only thing is that she didn’t know how to solve them. She confided to Chloe about feeling like she doesn’t exist, but then backtracked and clarified she was talking about her dad instead when Chloe got too close to home. Even IF she was genuinely talking about her father, it doesn’t erase the fact that she believed there was a possibility she was going to become like him— because she already saw the signs and made the comparison between them.

Remember her infamous outbursts in Awake? Unlike Chloe, she’s the type who keeps everything bottled in until it’s too much. Seeing her father kissing another woman was the breaking point and that’s why she reacted badly. And then when she kicked that bin, that was equivalent to Chloe smashing up the junkyard. And then that scream. That scream was the result of years bottling her pent up frustration, stress, anger at everyone including herself. Because she did everything to make her family proud, to please everyone to the point that she felt so empty and hollow, only to realize that it was all for nothing because her father was destroying her family. It wasn’t just a betrayal from her father but a betrayal to herself.

And then there’s Chloe Price. The girl who is the total opposite of her, yet who she can somehow still connect with at the same time. While she cared too much about what others thought, Chloe gave absolutely no fucks. That was her most attractive and admirable quality for Rachel. So what does she do? She latches onto Chloe to do exactly what she knows best. Become the ideal version of whoever wants her to be. In other words, the Rachel Amber who would finally give no fucks.

Rachel was the closest to her truest self when she was around Chloe. Just as she brought life and hope back into the girl’s life, so did Chloe for her. Chloe broke the walls she put up, and she’d seen her vulnerable enough times to let her mask slip. Chloe saw her at her lowest, ugliest self even when she wasn’t doing her usual thing of keeping everyone around her happy, yet she didn’t mock or leave her for it. For the first time, she was selfish, and *still* Chloe came back. That was a BIG reason to trust each other for the both of them. And that’s ultimately what bonded them for so long— the fact that they could be the shittiest people on earth, yet still see the best in each other even if they only see the worst in themselves.

Chloe was the first one to see through her social chameleon act because she slipped, and she continued to let her unmask who she was because that night Rachel just didn’t care enough to hold up the act any longer. This detail of Rachel’s chameleon act slipping *only* when something was wrong is a vital part in understanding the context around her. The first time was when she witnessed her whole world crash, the second was when she realized she was becoming like James, and the third was when she discovered what a monster James was. The fourth— when she asked that trucker for a drive out and didn’t bother to be her usual social chameleon self. We may never know what happened, but something wrong was going on in Rachel’s life that she didn’t want Chloe to be a part of— because why would she put the girl who stuck by her during her darkest hours through her bullshit again?

But at the end of the day, that wasn’t enough. Chloe wasn’t enough. And that’s understandable because a teenager truly can’t and shouldn’t have to be responsible for someone else’s happiness. No matter what choice Chloe makes at the end of BtS, the truth inevitably gets out and leads to Rachel having a fall out with her parents. When that happened, she lost a big pillar of her support system which only leaves her with Chloe who’s another emotionally damaged teen that’s on the road to self-destruction. Chloe can’t help others without helping herself first. But still, who else is there to make them feel a little less shitty except each other?

After her fall out with her parents and her father in particular, she seemed to have developed a taste for men twice her age: Frank Bowers (32) and Mark Jefferson (38). Whatever the reason her relationship with Frank was, she still wrote him those letters and seemed to have cared for him to some extent. Not only was he the source for drugs for her very much needed escape, but he was also the man who helped save her life in one of her most vulnerable moments, and a possible lead to find Sera. It’s not that surprising she’d seek comfort and safety in his arms when he already proved himself once. But clearly it wasn’t serious because she was fooling around with Jefferson at the same time (and Frank knew they wouldn’t have lasted anyway).

Now, Jefferson. The devs confirmed that Rachel was in love with Jefferson and honestly, that’s the least surprising thing ever considering how he basically had the female population of Blackwell head over heels for him. Even Rachel wasn’t immune to that psychopath’s charm. He was a well reputable photographer, had the connections to propel her modeling career, was attractive and mysterious and apparently a damaged soul. He was the perfect one way ticket out of Arcadia Bay. He was her photographer and she was his muse. He was basically the perfect solution to her problems.

The girl clearly had deep rooted daddy issues and was ashamed of it herself since she couldn’t even share her secret relationship to the one person she trusted the most despite sharing her other relationships with her (except Frank).

This is where the drugs and partying come in. They’re a way for her to escape the bullshit in her life for a few hours. Chloe was what made her feel real, but the drugs and partying was what made her forget— forget that her biological mother chose drugs and money over her (twice), forget that her own father was so despicable that he was planning to overdose Sera (this is what Chloe said in the silent dialogue), forget that her biological mother may just be dead somewhere because of James, forget that her own family was a lie, forget all the expectations placed upon her, forget that she herself was a lie, forget that she was so insecure that she had to seek warmth and safety in the arms of men twice her age, forget the guilt of knowing the girl who would die for her was still not enough, forget that at the end of the day all her problems is caused by her own mind and that her own fears had come to reality. And she hated herself for that.

But still, Rachel wasn’t a total junkie or outwardly self destructive to the point that she abandoned her studies like Chloe did. She didn’t let the drugs and partying dictate her life, hence the 4.0 GPA. After all, she still had a reputation to maintain. She was still the DA’s daughter, and getting into college was still a way to get out of Arcadia Bay.

BUT SEE, that was exactly Rachel’s problem. She could never choose which to be; The Problematic Junkie of a Disappointment (Sera), or the Golden Child (James & Rose) everyone expected her to be. She wanted to be as free as Chloe, but she also didn’t want to be a disappointment. She was tired of everything but couldn’t allow herself to fall because it was her nature to demand the best of herself for others as long as she could do it. But what happens when it’s your very own nature you’re going against? It gets really complicated. So instead of choosing, she doesn’t and becomes both. That was ultimately the worst decision she ever made.

Make no mistake, Rachel was an absolute idiot for being so indecisive. She could have easily solved her problems if she just finally gave no shit and did whatever she wanted to. But that’s the problem with people who’re labeled as perfect growing up. They eventually believe it and demand perfection of themselves. They care too much about everything because if they have the ability to be perfect, then why would you choose not to be? When someone is seen to be perfect, disappointment is 10x worse. Even Chloe was guilty of idealizing Rachel to be this perfect girl and was disappointed when she realized Rachel was just like everyone else who puts in hard work—(“Rachel's always made being an A student seem so easy. Almost sad to see all this... effort."), but it’s Chloe accepting Rachel for who she was despite no longer being the perfect girl she believed her to be that mattered.

With being seen as perfect usually comes with the assumption that your whole life is. Just as everyone invalidated her problems because she’s Little Miss Perfect with the perfect grades and the seemingly perfect family, so did she.

‘Cause hey, what does she have to be mad about when she’s a rich white girl who’s been given everything she’s ever wanted, right? (James basically said that). At that point the only problem Rachel had was that she was acting as the perfect daughter and perfect friend and perfect student at the expense of her own happiness, and then throw in the sudden slap in the face that it was all for nothing because her father was destroying the family she’d tried so hard to do proud.

But then again even if that wasn’t enough reason to spiral, it really would mess you up if your own father told you that your biological mother chose money and drugs over you, that everything you’ve done so far was all for a lie and worst of all, that your own father was going to kill your biological mother and there’s nothing you can do to change that. I mean really, I’m not a therapist or anything but I wouldn’t be surprised if Rachel’s mental health was suffering by that point.

I mean get this: she abused drugs and partied harder than anyone else and got wasted even though she knew they were wrong (Sera would’ve been a painful reminder), slept around with older men who undoubtedly took advantage and controlled her, continued to act like the perfect student and pretended to be someone she’s not just to keep everyone happy even though it was causing her to question her own existence— it’s almost as if she was punishing herself for continuing down that path.

Ultimately what Rachel was running away from was who she had become in Arcadia Bay. Once she’d be out, she wouldn’t be Little Miss Perfect anymore. She wouldn’t be the DA’s daughter. She wouldn’t have to keep lying. She would be able to start over. She would just be Rachel Amber, the nobody.

She cared too much in contrast to Chloe’s ‘I don’t give a shit’ attitude, and that’s why she still managed to maintain her perfect image even when she was already so broken. Whereas Chloe’s first instinct was to blame others, Rachel’s was to blame herself. Both never had a healthy balance when it came to accepting responsibility and that’s what connected them so well together.

Call it selflessness or selfishness or stupidity or melodrama, but at the end of the day Rachel tried to keep everyone around her happy, just like Max tried to do with her powers except Rachel used lies to do it. She was greedy and selfish, no disagreement to that, but she also tried to be selfless for most of her life. She was her own enemy and she demonized herself for it. And that got her murdered, thrown and buried away like the used rag doll she treated herself to be.

She was Chloe’s angel and Chloe was hers, but she was also her own demon. And there’s only so much two broken angels can do against a demon.

**TL;DR:** Idealizing her to be the Perfect Girl was what made her want to run away. Her family was what broke her. Desperation for escape was what killed her. Her family just *really* suck.

Now, I’m not trying to justify Rachel’s actions but merely rationalizing her character. I acknowledge that she was capable of being a shitty person at times, but just as Chloe had her issues, so did she, and so I choose to see them both for what they tried to be. Good hearted people just trying to make their shitty life a little easier. At the end of the day, Rachel Amber was a deeply flawed, insecure and emotionally damaged girl that pretended like nothing was wrong to forget about her troubles for a little, and was just dealt a bad hand in life. Literally.

After writing all of this, I realize that holy shit this girl was fucking complicated and a single post doesn’t do her justice nor explains her character properly enough. I thought it’d be simple enough to word it out, but then again, someone who was basically a junkie yet still managed to maintain her perfect reputation amongst her peers and the faculty is bound to be this complexed. Also as you can see I got very lazy at the middle of the elaborations and repetition has probably made this unnecessarily long but thank you for reading and finishing this overall confusing and messy essay.

[gingermcl]

Raising personal frequency and why it matters.

I am not a love and light person. As in we must be positive all the time and negative feelings can’t exist. No. As someone who can literally feel a persons energy, I will say that negatively charged energy has a heavier feel to it. You literally can feel the density in the air in a room shift when an extremely negative person walks in. There is some truth in all programming. Even in psychological operations like the new age movement. The new cage movement. Earth is a realm of duality; good and bad exist here. In a realm of duality, the goal is balance. One must innerstand darkness does exist in all of us and that is ok! Too many people want to pretend darkness doesn’t exist and by ignoring evil, it grows. Don’t let the darkness control you. Anyone pushing that we have to make the darkness go completely away or that it shouldn’t exist is misinformed and I would be cautious listening to advice from said person. I would be leery of anyone attempting to tell another how to live. Pushing your will on another is the definition of black magic. With anything I ever discuss, if you don’t agree that’s cool. I’m always open to hearing new ideas and perspectives; please don’t approach me in a nasty manner. I won’t engage someone unable to have an calm conversation. Engaging and regularly interacting with negativity or negative people is a good way to lower your own frequency. We often tend to carry a frequency similar to our friends, this is why so many outgrow friends after having a spiritual awakening. We literally outgrow people on an energetic level. 

Raising personal frequency is important. Lower vibrational energies literally cannot affect folks on a higher frequency. I made a conscious effort 7 years ago to change who I was. A girl in a rehab therapy group told me about myself and I did not like what I heard. She said I was one of the most negative people she had ever met and as I began to examine my behaviors and my words, I realized she was right. It took a couple years of conscious effort to change my mindset from negative to positive. I can say today the results have been priceless. I am very appreciative of her giving me a wake up call.

If what we are told is correct and atoms are in fact what compose matter; everything in this universe is sound. Atoms are said to be made of waves and vibrations. At the molecular level atoms don’t actually touch. Atoms get extremely close to one another but they never fully touch. They’re independent energy fields and when densely packed together atoms form matter. Matter is dense....which goes along with my observation of negatively charged energy being heavier. Higher dimensions are said to be heavenly and they also do not have dense physical matter. I’m not entirely certain that physical existence isn’t a prison for the spirit. Our bodies are made of cells, prisoners are put in cells. It is blatantly obvious that those in control of this realm would like humanity on the lowest frequency possible. One intention of mind control programming is to lower the frequency of mankind, keep man in a angry, fearful, depressed, lower vibrational state. It is highly likely there are malevolent beings harvesting humanity’s soul energy. This energy is called loosh. All emotions create loosh; for some reason negative emotions generate more or more desirable energy.

The negative humans and other unseen beings/energies who have been in control of this realm for thousands of years now feed on what is known as loosh. Loosh is the life force energy created by humans when they experience emotions. Low vibrational emotions such as anger, sadness, depression, and even apathy are preferred by these negative energies than the loosh generated by positive emotions. Feeding these malevolent energies is why so much programming is done to divide the people, to make us hate our lives and ourselves, to blame mankind for the evil here, and many other trauma based mind control tactics are in place to keep humanity in a lowered state of existence. There are individuals who feel a deep seeded guilt in the heart just for being born due to this programming! The moon is thought to be emitting a low frequency in order to mind control humanity. Hence why when at full power a.k.a. a full moon humans act crazier and even violent. A full moon is when the Saturn moon matrix broadcasts the strongest signal.

If you are a person who has discovered that evil is running this realm, the best thing you can do is to do the exact opposite of what the controllers want; work on making your life peaceful, exposing the evil, healing your trauma and reprogramming yourself, disengage from the “matrix” every way you can. Be mindful of where you spend money, try not to use money, watch your words, push out negative thoughts, and love yourself. Anyone “awake” should absolutely strive for a higher frequency, honestly everyone should strive for a higher frequency. Existence is much more enjoyable and calmer when you are on a higher frequency. The law of attraction is legitimate. We attract back to us exactly what we put out into this world. Putting out positivity attracts pleasant situations and focusing on negativity creates unpleasantries.

Extremely high and extremely low vibrations do not mix, they tend to separate themselves from one another instead. Society is currently being divided. Those who are fearful are going one way and those of us who want unity are going another. How this ultimately will play out, time will tell.  

Sleep paralysis is potentially based solely on frequency. Sleep paralysis occurs when your frequency is too low. I’ve heard folks say sleep paralysis is necessary for astral projection; that is not true. Sleep paralysis is unnatural and caused by a weapon of some kind. A frequency weapon. Those on a too high frequency cannot be manipulated by such technology.

In my opinion being on a higher frequency is better is because you have access to more spiritual information and any metaphysical ability you possess functions exponentially better on a higher frequency. When my frequency goes too low, certain abilities vanish. Frequency fluctuates regularly. It typically stays in a a range normal for you, but extraordinary events like a crisis or confrontation can dramatically drop one’s frequency; it can take days, weeks, or even months to recover from some circumstances. Recognizing how important frequency is and learning how to raise your frequency are important to spiritual development. When on a higher frequency you have a better connection with your intuition, are less susceptible to mind control programming, and psychic attack.

How to raise frequency.

Meditate regularly - at least three times a week for 15 minutes to start

Spend as much time as possible outside in nature

Daily Grounding/Earthing. Walking barefoot on the earth for 15 minutes every day. Weather permitting.

Positive thoughts, actions, words, and deeds. Developing positive mantras to repeat throughout the day is helpful.

Breath work

Engage in as little conflict and negativity as you can.

Avoid alcohol and prescription drugs.

Don’t be too serious or have too many expectations for this will create resentments. Events will never unfold as we expect them to, people are much better served by going with the flow and observing how events unfold as they happen; don’t anticipate events ahead of them occurring.

Work on conquering fears. Especially the fear of death.

Practice compassion, empathy, and kindness towards everyone. Humans are equal; one isn’t better than another. Our life choices and luck is often the only thing that separates us.

Laugh

Exercise. Make sure you do something you find fun, not something you dread. Any kind of physical activity where one is having fun will raise his vibe. Dancing is a personal favorite.

Take a break from technology

Be mindful of how much time you spend on technology. Put the phone down during dinner or when you should be engaging with the people literally in front of you.

Wear and decorate with crystals. Black tourmaline and obsidian are good for negativity.

Decorate with high vibrational plants jasmine, aloe vera, or a snake plant

Be mindful of what information you watch and listen to. Movies, TV, music, social media, etc. It is best to just turn off the TV for good. Television is a weapon. Be very conscious of what information you allow to enter your mind.

Minimize interaction with toxic people. Keep conversations short, topics shallow, and have an exit plan if at an event where the environment may get unpleasant. For example drive your own car, have a friend or the babysitter call and oops I have to go….boundaries to protect your energy aren’t bad.😉

Thank your food for its life and sustenance prior to consuming it (plant or animal.) Doing this changes the food into higher vibrational intake.

Regularly cleanse negative energy from your personal spaces. Energy cleansing methods are decluttering, letting fresh air and light in, clapping loudly in the corners of a room to move stagnant energy, smudging, epsom salt baths.

Aura cleansing, visualization, cord cutting meditations

The above tips will have a positive effect on your frequency. Remember your thoughts create your reality and you get back what you put out into the universe. If your thoughts are consistently negative be prepared to have negative experiences. If you are hopeful, have faith in your ability to manifest & the universe’s ability to make things happen for you, have generally positive and laid-back nature, you will reap great rewards and experience feelings of happiness, contentment, and abundance.

I feel it is obvious by the state of the world today that humanity has been in a very negative state of mind for quite some time. There are millions of us (if not billions) that are here to change this reality, not to adapt to it. We have been called Starseeds, indigo children, and light workers; regardless of label the intent is the same - to create a positive reality on earth, to rid this place of evil, to liberate humanity from enslavement, and teach them a new way to think. We are here to help humanity realize humans are powerful creator beings and these powers have been stripped away by literal genetic manipulation. It is time for the devolution of mankind to end and for humanity to begin ascending back to the higher dimensional consciousness we once were.

[hillbillyoracle]

Dealing with Stress When You Live in a Rough Place

This isn't necessarily tarot or shadow work, but I wanted to write a little bit about strategies I've found useful for dealing with my neighborhood in it's current state. All of this can apply to managing stress generally but I'm focusing on folks in my boat. I'm incredibly sleep deprived so it's going to be rambly - I'm warning you now. But hopefully this helps someone.

I've shared a little bit about what's been going on in other posts; we hear shootings at least weekly, people will play loud music so loud the window rattle really late at night, all out brawls have broken out in the parking lot, our neighbors bang against the walls even in the middle of the night, most our neighbors have made it clear they don't like us because we're gay, we've had our car broken into at least 2 in the last month, kids have taken to beating our cars with sticks, climbing on and under them, screaming in front of our house, beating on our door and running off - like y'all it's a lot!

I talk about this so folks can know where I'm coming from. Some folks read this and they're horrified, some folks are going to read that and be like fuck that's tame. How hard a situation looks really does depend on what your normal is and how you were raised. For me, it's pretty intense. I was raised in out in the country so I didn't grow up living really close to people like I have to here in the city. And country neighborhoods have their own brand of rough, do not underestimate it, but most of what I've compiled here is going to be about living in close proximity with other people in areas with high crime rates.

Mindset Shifts

The Sooner You Accept Your Lack of Control - The Better

And I mean really accept it. Not just intellectually understanding that there's not anything you can do, but getting as okay with that as you can manage. For folks who are already traumatized that's a whole lot harder to do. Living in a space that traumatizes you daily will also make that harder as time goes on. But it's been some of the most important work I've done while living in a place that this. Sometimes I cope by being very public about what I'm going through, sometime I cope by

Sensory Management is Not a Luxury, It is a Necessity

This has become overwhelmingly clear to me that sensory overload in rough neighborhoods is a wildly underdiscussed health issue. There's measurable health differences in people who are exposed to a lot of noise versus those who aren't. I'm autistic so this is something I have to do just to function but I've seen a huge shift in my girlfriend's mental health since living here too. Take it seriously and try to attend to it just like you would any other health concern, making it a part of your routine. This is where adapting Polyvagal strategies has come in handy.

Good is Still Good Even If There's a Ton of Bad

There are very few moments of pure joy in a neighborhood like this. One of the reasons that a gratitude practice has been genuinely helpful is that it's shown me how much good can get swept away in the tidal wave of crap in a place like this. So that I don't feel helpless or internalize how worthless places like this are designed to make you feel, I try to resist by reflecting on the good. IT helps me feel like my life still has meaning while I'm living here and it's not a waste to be right where I am right now.

I Am Not Failing Myself For Not Getting Sleep, Food, Safe, Etc

I'm lucky that we've been good on food but sleep and safety have been in short supply. I realized I often felt like I was a bad person for being in this situation where I couldn't sleep, I criticized myself for not being able to sleep through all the noise and getting worked up. I have to remind myself daily that I'm not failing myself for what I can't really control. I'm not a bad person because of what people around me choose to do.

Polyvagal Strategies Adapted

Nature

Ideally, when you're trying to regulate your nervous system, you'd want to get out into nature more. It's just flat out not accessible or safe to do so here. I'm lucky that my room faces a nice tree and when I'm getting stressed, I take some time to just sit and really look at it. I try to notice the details. I also really enjoy feeding birds on my window sill. I invested in a big bag of bird seed with some Christmas money that's lasted me at least a year now but I used to get bags for about 5 dollars at Kroger. If you can't get close to nature, lure it to you.

Need something totally free? You can also pull up livefeeds of bird feeders on YouTube. I used to watch them when I couldn't walk to put out birdseed. Still very helpful. Nature cams in general are great. Put on a nature doc like Planet Earth. Change your computer and phone backgrounds to have natural landscapes. Even just sketching landscapes and having landscape are around your space can help.

If you can buy some soil, dig some up, or swipe some from a public garden bed, you can grow some small plants on your window sill. You can grow a lot of seeds from vegetables and some fruits you get at the store. You can also collect seeds from trees and try to grow them (it's difficult, plant several at a time). Take cuttings of plants you can identify as safe. Extension services will also sometimes send seeds for free. Taking care of a plant really helps us spend more time in the restorative part of our nervous system.

Sound

At the intersection of sound and nature is nature noises. If you're trying to block out your neighbors anyways, nature noises are the best option. I've had the best luck rain and storm sounds. Water noises in particular have a calming effect on our nervous system. If I really need to block something out I'll layer a rain generator over some music I like (rain sounds + Elliot Smith = a vibe).

Music in general can have different  activating and calming effects on our nervous system. Pay attention to what music activates you and makes you more likely to be in conflict with people when you listen to it and what music makes you more social. Physically relaxation is harder for me personally to gauge. As a person with trauma I can't always tell when my body is relaxing or not. So paying attention to how I treat others helps me check myself.

Temperature + Touch

When we're warmer, we tend to feel more socially connected than when we're cold. Put on some extra clothes, pile on the blankets, take a bath, or grab a space heater if you have one. It's worth increasing the temp a little if you're stressed. Too hot and we can begin to feel crowded out. So if you're feeling the need to flee, it's worth trying to cool off a little. I usually do this by splashing some cool water on my face.

While we crave touch from others, touch from ourselves also helps calm our nervous systems! Jin Shin Jyutsu has been super helpful for me. There are a few videos online. I recommend searching Facebook for a woman local to me - Jennifer Bradley. I took one of her in person classes before the pandemic and it's been very helpful especially around sleep. I think the only place she's got her recent videos up is on her Facebook page but they're worth tracking down. She's a very good teacher and just a very soothing presence in general.

There's some evidence that just imagining being hugged or held is calming on the nervous system. Some goes for imagining ourselves out walking in nature. Don't be afraid to spend time daydreaming!

Breath + Movement

A lot of unsafe neighborhoods make common advice like going for a walk completely out of the question. However, even just moving more around your space can help. Yoga has been very helpful to me. My partner finds bodyweight exercises really help her. Any movement you feel good doing counts. Including movement you imagine yourself doing as well.

Breathing is movement, or seems to have a similar effect at least. I really recommend checking out a few breath work strategies to use. You've always got your lungs on you so it's easy to use. I like the in for 4 counts, hold for 7, release for 8 pattern. Breath is a direct line to the nervous system and I try to do a breathing pattern several times a day just to regroup.

Cognitive Strategies

Journal Like Your Life Depends on It

I'm not joking. TMS journaling - journaling stream of consciousness very intensely for about 20-30 minutes and then destroying what you've written - has been key not only to me surviving this place but having fewer Fibro flares than when I was living in much calmer places. But honestly all journaling is helpful. I've been keeping a daily journal in Notion and that alone has been helpful. Making sure I've gotten as much as possible off of my mind throughout the day has helped so much. Find a journaling strategy that allows you to take the cognitive load of (or a few) and practice them as often as you can. Not into journaling? I used to take videos of myself talking into the camera and save or delete them depending on whether I wanted to come back to them. Are words rough? Draw your feelings or scenes as you saw them.

Find the Story That Works

There are a bunch of conflicting ideas about what the right view of trauma and the story of it is. I personally really hate any narrative that places me as a victim. For better or worse, I like to look at what I've learned in any giving situation. So in my current situation, when I'm overwhelmed, I remind myself that I'm only getting a glimpse of what some people in places like this go through. It's increasing my empathy and expanding my awareness which allows me to better serve others. It's made me more committed to keeping my materials accessible over profiting. There's been a lot of benefit when I frame it that way. And that works for me. If that story isn't helpful for you - work to find a frame to narrate your experiences - as they're happening - that help you feel more whole.

Conclusion

I'm not sure if these strategies will work for other people but I wanted to at least have something out there than people could hopefully find if they're struggling with the same thing. Basically, if you can't fix it - manage it. Find ways to make the experience less traumatic if you're able to. Manage your sensory input. Do what you can with what you have where you are. Too many folks will tell you that you absolutely have to change your material circumstances before you can address mental health but for many of us that's just not possible. Or in the words of one of my favorite Buddhist teachers, Robina Courtin, "If you can do something, do something, but if you can't, what are you going to do?"

[juststraightvibes]

Loooooooong time, no see!!

SO much has changed in the past 10 months or so since I last posted. I’ve had a lot of new experiences and my life back home is so different to what it was like on exchange, and there have definitely been a lot of extreme highs and lows. My focus for this diary/blog is still going to be similar, but with less focus on spirituality and more focus on philosophy and introspection as that’s more relevant to my current worldview.

Sadly, my mental health isn’t too great at the moment, which is why I’ve come back to this blog after so long. I seemed so positive and happy in my older posts, which I hope I might be able to achieve again through a shift back to an uplifting view on myself and my life. I’d like to be able to see my progress and track my thoughts, feelings, challenges and solutions. It will probably get fairly personal.

At this very moment, I’m doing okay. I had quite a big mental breakdown at this time yesterday, but since then I’ve recovered and have been able to enjoy today without too much of a negative mindset. 

Some things I’m grateful for (I love this exercise it’s honestly so good and everyone should do it!!):

- getting to spend more time with my boyfriend now that his work gig’s over (yes life updates we’ve only been dating a couple months but have known each other for years and he’s absolutely amazing and I love him so much!!)

- a friend of a friend I don’t know very well saying hi to me today!

- talking to the girl I sit next to in art history and discovering we have mutual friends

- doing four perfect parallel parks in a row in my driving practise this evening!!

- a good song came on the radio while I was driving that I hadn’t heard before and added to my playlist after :)

At the moment, my main goal is to figure out how to cope with my emotions that often seem extremely overwhelming, in order to be more productive and enjoy my daily life more. I’m hoping that writing here will help with this! So stick around for the journey, or not :p

17.5.21

- juststraightvibes <3